Growing Up Is Hard To Do


When you’re in high school getting ready to graduate, you think about your future and what college you’re going to and what you want to be, who you want to be. Then suddenly, you’re forced to get a job (if you don’t have one already) that doesn’t pay well and makes you miserable (because the public stinks) to help pay for the ridiculous cost of college. If you’re not sure what you want to do, you go to community college for two years and figure it out on the way. Meanwhile, you’re being hit with all this responsibility like tax refunds, car payments, bills, car inspections, more bills, credit cards, etc. All while still trying to get a decent education.

It seems like you have to be Wonder Woman to be able to juggle having one or more crap jobs, passing ridiculously hard classes, maintaining a social life, and still being healthy by doing things like exercising and eating right.

Then you want to be independent and live on your own but it costs too damn much. It’s like weight loss. For every pound you gain, you have to work ten times as hard to work it off. For every penny you need to live, you have to work ten times as hard to get it.

But the worst part about growing up is the constant feeling that you should have your life together already when you don’t.

I’m here to tell you (and myself) that at this time in your life you are like a book with blank pages. You aren’t supposed to have your whole life figured out already. That’s not how life works. You have to wander around a little, get lost and find yourself in the things that make you happy, the things that make you the most yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you. Beautiful wondrous things will come and so will disaster and terribly awful things, but that is what makes life so interesting.

The good news is that you probably have a whole team of family and friends behind you. They are there to explain things and help you make sense of adulthood. If you make mistakes, no matter how big or small, they will be there to pick you back up again, dust you off, and tell you to try again tomorrow.

Don’t think of this point in time as a frantic “what am I going to do with the rest of my life?!” Instead, think of it as a chance to be whatever, whoever you want to be. Anything at all. Can you imagine all of the possibilities?

So make sure you spend time with your family, don’t fade away from them. Because while you’re growing up, they’re also growing older.

Plant a garden to believe in tomorrow.

Do something that scares you.

Don’t get so caught up in yesterday or the rest of your life that you forget to live now. Every second, life is passing you by.

Be the person that the 5-year-old you would look up to.

Instead of rushing your life, take it one day at a time, one step at a time.

Don’t panic (save that for disco).

Study hard and educate yourself.

Never stop learning.

Never stop dreaming.

Feed your imagination with any and all art forms.

Do not confine yourself to the standards of this world. If you want to be somewhere else then fly there, my darling, because you are not a caged bird. You are free.

Don’t be afraid to fall and make mistakes, no matter how big or awful they may seem. The thing about human nature that is so incredible is that no matter how hard the weight of the world is crashing down on our shoulders, we still have the strength to stand. Not just survive, but stand. That is a powerful thing. Some may even call it…magic.


So shine. If your heart tells you to then who are you to question it.

So take a deep breath and let go of all your worries.

You have your whole life ahead of you, come make a mess of it.



P.S. I’m gonna leave this here just in case you need a little more encouragement followed by a spontaneous dance party.



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